Point-Of-View: A Graduate's Love Blues

College-- during the final stage of completing your education attainment goals, there are more advantages than disadvantages: higher allowance, more freedom to make your own decisions, open opportunities to work or meet new people, parties, enjoyable school's educational activities, being to different places and an acceptable reason to be in a relationship.

I am not saying that having relationships in high school is illegal, but of course, during those years, parents are more protective of you and on the other hand, you are younger and have little rational knowing on how to make a relationship work. While in college, of course, your parents may consider to let you have a boyfriend or girlfriend because you are older or of legal age (18 and above) which means you are more capable of making wise decisions regarding the relationship you are putting yourself into, although they are also expecting that you'll reach out to them somehow if ever there is more that you need to understand about relationships.

So, that's what exactly happened to me and believe me, I managed making my relationships known by my parents, although I have a feeling that this is a lot more serious than the earlier ones.

Everything worked so well, starting from courtship to dating and finally, meeting each other's parents.



Every relationship is smooth sailing at times, sometimes, experiencing storms or rocked by some corals; but then, two sailors working hand in hand can get through those.

Until that day came, when they announced about it. I never saw it coming.
No, actually, I saw it coming-- we expected it, we worked for it, we yearned for it.
Yes, I am talking about the announcement of our graduation day.

Of course, we want it. We built a lot of dreams for ourselves, for each other and for our own families that graduating can give.

But just thinking about after the graduation makes me worry sometimes

Of course, after collecting all your documents, you will have to find a job, you will have to go to interviews, and if you did not pass, go and hunt for jobs again.

If you pass? Of course, you will have to work according to the schedule they will give you (obviously) and sometimes, overtime is inevitable which might drive you crazy thinking, What? Let's just go out next week? Why can't we just have a date tonight?

Let's add meeting new workmates, getting along with them, going out with them for fun because you have to maintain a good relationship with people you work with. Oh no, how if he/she likes someone new?

After your working hours, finally, time to go home, but uh-oh! You might encounter a looong line of vehicles, a heavy traffic that may eat a lot of hours. Phew!

Then, at the end of the day, you will have to take care of yourself-- do the laundry, eat, clean the house or at least, help your parents with it. How many hours are left for you to have even a little chat or meet-up with your sweetheart?

A rational mind will tell that it is not impossible to handle a relationship while working; while a crazy-in-love heart will just groan in a corner and ask, "How are you going to handle this now? I have such an insatiable hunger for love nothings and stuff like that."

Maybe, the best reply to it is, "Behave, Heart. Behave. Your relationship will be safe with just the right adjustment. Priorities first."

(c) OriginalAs/March21,2015